Group therapy in a blog.
Hmm…
So, last week, Esther writes about dating books, including Kristina Grish’s The Joy of Text.
This week, the NY Times writes about dating books, including Kristina Grish’s The Joy of Text.
Interesting…
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So, last week, Esther writes about dating books, including Kristina Grish’s The Joy of Text.
This week, the NY Times writes about dating books, including Kristina Grish’s The Joy of Text.
Interesting…
In the same link the NYT also reviews another book “THE NEW RULES OF MARRIAGE – What You Need to Know to Make Love Work.”
Some choice excerpts:
“Venting, criticizing, blaming and complaining  all in the name of “honest expression† too many women provoke resentment, not sympathy, in their mates, he explains. The men respond by giving in to their worst impulses, like withdrawal, bullying, arrogance or stonewalling, hoping to ride out the storm.
How can we all get along? By replacing accusation with understanding, Mr. Real suggests, and continually posing the question: “What can I give you to help you give me what I want?â€Â
“…He identifies five major pitfalls that trip up the over-empowered individual: Unbridled Self-Expression, Needing to Be Right, Controlling Our Partner, Retaliation, and Withdrawal. And he provides exercises so couples can assess their own flaws (no, don’t surprise your partner by showing him your bullet-pointed list of his failings), and strategies to increase “cherishing.â€Â
He seems to be right on the money. I think most people have experienced some of the above in relationships. We really need to learn how to communicate better and work on ourselves. Probably a book worth reading.