M., a reader from California, shares the following found example of JDate’s seemingly random censoring of certain clusters of letters…

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Perfect First Date: “It would where we first get to know each other.
The venue is not that important. We would be relaxed and
enthusiastically talk about various su ects. A good place to meet
would be a cafe or restaurant.”
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“su ects.” JDate censors “bj.” I don’t know if I should be amused
or appalled.

M., be appalled, and not just at the censoring of BJ (what if the person was talking about a synagogue on the Upper West Side?).

Be appalled because this person has constructed a well-oiled cliche to show his (boring) vision of a first date, be it perfect or not.

“where we first get to know each other”–this is any date.
“enthusiastically talk about various su ects”–even “adding a BJ” here isn’t going to help.
“A good place to meet would be a cafe or restaurant”–props for spelling restaurant right, a word I still occasionally wrong with a misspelling.

But this reminds me of an improv “ask,” where we ask the audience for a setting before constructing a scene within that context. You’ve seen it: “Can you give me a location, where two people might meet?” This is so general that it’s really up to the creativity of the individual to tailor it interestingly. A cafe or restaurant? Almost never. More likely, the audience responds with a subway platform, a library, the corner market, a doctor’s office…none of which I would select for a first date. But all of which would be more interesting than anything this guy would pick.

I’m harsh, I know. Call it high standards, or high-falutin’, but I’m simply not willing to compromise on creativity.